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The BDSM Lifestyle Meme

BDSM isn't all about the sex. Sure, handcuffs, whips and chains, toys, power and control-play can be fun, but sometimes it's about the other stuff too. The little stuff. The ways you and your partner give yourselves to each other every day.

So this is a meme to play out safe, sane, consensual and maybe even non-sexual BDSM.

If you want more information, check out:

The Ten Golden Rules of BDSM Negotiation
Sexuality.Org's BDSM Index
The Keys to A Relationship
Extreme Restraints

Be warned: Threads and prompts below may contain triggers, and will contain sexual content.

THE EVERYDAY:
1. feeding: using him as a plate? having her kneel and accept hand-feeding? maybe someone's been very good and should have a tasty reward.
2. bathing: after all, you have to take care of your partner. it's nice to have someone to get lotion in those hard-to-reach places.
3. talking/therapy: how are you going to work out this relationship? what obstacles do you have to overcome?
4. massage: some intimate relaxation.
5. dates: it's good to go out every once in a while.
6. negotiation: to work out what kinks are and are not okay.
7. nonsexual bondage: gags, bridles, chastity belts. some people just like the security of bondage in everyday life.
8. humiliation/in public: take your pet out to show her off; bend him over a bench and spank him for bad behavior.
9. animal play: pony play, pet play.
10. punishment/discipline: someone's been bad. maybe it's time for a time-out. or maybe someone has to clean the bathroom with a toothbrush.
11. other

THE SEXUAL:
1. the light stuff: some handcuffs, some ropes. nothing too extreme. maybe one partner or the other is afraid; maybe it's just time to take a break from the trappings and have some love-making.
2. bondage: chains, or elaborately knotted ropes, or full-body bindings. maybe even suspension in midair.
3. caning/whipping/spanking: for punishment and for enjoyment of the pain.
4. shaving: you like them with smooth skin. no beards, no lovetrail, no hairy legs.
5. piercing/tattooing: a permanent mark of devotion.
6. sensory deprivation: gags, blindfolds, earplugs, to shut out the rest of the world.
7. as therapy: exploring a past trauma or fear.
8. first time: one partner or another is experiencing the kink lifestyle for the first time.
9. kink parties: for casual play. mind the rules; drugs and alcohol are rarely tolerated, and all play must be consensual. or else the host or hostess might get angry.
10. orgasm denial/forced orgasm: until they beg for it, or beg you to stop.
11. ageplay: perhaps someone wants to be treated like a child. maybe a little daddy or mommy kink to go along with it.
12. role-play: taking on roles. master-slave, teacher-student, dragon prince and slave-dancer -- your imagination's the limit.
13. genital torture: pain where you're the most sensitive.
14. electricity: to give things a spark.
15. medical fetish: sounding, stirrups, speculums -- oh, doctor.
16. fucking machines: it'll keep in the same rhythm, no matter how much you beg.
17. other

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Originally posted by

cornichaun

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BRIEF CHARACTER DESCRIPTION: Info
Twenty-two year old Londoner of Korean ancestry. Dark brown hair, hazel eyes, lanky physique, classy attires, submissive role. An achromat who can only see in black, white, and grey colours.
SEEKING: Older experienced male.
KINKS: List
NO: Everyday - 7 to 10 | Sexual - 5, 11, 13 to 16
MAYBE: Sexual - 2 and 3

BRIEF CHARACTER DESCRIPTION: TL;DR Character Information
16-17 years old, can be aged up to 18+ (up to early-mid 20s preferable if at all). Red haired, green & brown heterochromia, uppity-submissive, serious, doesn't like to admit to things she thinks might be embarrassing even if she might like it (IE being teased or being somewhat masochistic). May need convincing or security to go with more hardcore aspects.
SEEKING: Older experienced partner, male preference
KINKS
YES: Everyday: 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 | Sexual: 1, 2, 3, 4, 6, 8, 16
NO: Everyday: 1, 9, 10 | Sexual: 5, 9, 13
MAYBE: Everyday: 7, 8 | Sexual: 7, 10, 11, 12, 14, 15

BRIEF CHARACTER DESCRIPTION: Asahi's Wiki Page
17 years old (can be aged up to better suit the situation), Japanese, long brown hair and soft brown eyes, with an athletic, muscled physique. Submissive almost to a fault, sensitive, meek, but he's got a surprisingly strong will when provoked hard enough.

SEEKING: An affectionate dom, male-preferred.

KINKS
YES: Everyday: 2-6, 8, 10 | Sexual: 1-4, 6-12
NO: Sexual: 13-16
MAYBE: Everyday: 1, 7, 9 | Sexual: 5

BRIEF CHARACTER DESCRIPTION: Rei's Wiki Page
16 years old (can be aged up), Japanese, blue hair and purple eyes, very athletic, muscular build. Uptight and practical, but very easy to fluster. Comically adorable when he's over-confident, especially when that confidence is shattered. Can play either the dominant or submissive role, depending on the scene and his partner.

SEEKING: Similarly-aged male of either role.

KINKS
YES: Everyday: 2-6, 8, 10 | Sexual: 1-4, 6-12
NO: Sexual: 13, 14, 16
MAYBE: Everyday: 1, 7, 9 | Sexual: 5, 15

BRIEF CHARACTER DESCRIPTION: Spider woman who comes off aloof but is a serious basket case, due to both trust issues and the fact that she uses magic with her spider webs. Uses bondage to soothe herself and can go either way. Generally more perverted the more friendly she is with someone. Indeterminate age, appears to be an above-average height and around 22.
SEEKING: Someone affectionate who is not afraid to dominate, or willing to put up with her aloof->nervous nature.
KINKS
YES: Everyday - All except 8 | Sexual - 1-3, 6-8, 10-12, 14
NO: Everyday - 8 (public) | Sexual - 13, 15, 16
MAYBE: Everyday - 8 (Humiliation) | Sexual - 5, 17

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